Thumb rule....!

What do u think is true for friendship that is also true for love? We all know for a fact that friendship sows the seed of love. I clearly have one rule in my mind which i have followed since childhood. "if the girl likes u in one go for something then she will like u no matter what u do ( even if u have pissed her off for something). And if she does not like you in the first go then, no matter how hard anyone tries she will not like u.... "

It is important to see whether the girl has an inclination towards the conversation u make with her. If the input is flowing from just one side then the relation MAY not grow for long. I had thoroughly understood this when I apporached my puberty. So i used to always let go off women who were not showing any interest in me or my conversations, despite i having a soft corner for them.
Conversely, there were loads of instances where i never used to let go off a FRIEND even after i had understood that the lady is showing the least of interest in me or my conversations. i kept pursuing the relation. I was just wanting friendship. Nothing more. Why cant women just be friends and not think beyond. I started getting unhappy despite knowing very well that i had done nothing to spoil the relation. Then why was i subjected to such a treatment? Today, after so many years have passed by, Eureka moment arrived. The rule of thumb that i used to follow for LOVE should have also been followed for FRIENDSHIP too...may be thn i wud have felt less hurt. It was useless pursuing women who were just trying to waste time for the heck of it and making myself unhappy thinking things would improve. Instead its now easier to let go off such people.

It may be hard in the beginning (thats what i realise) but once in the gear, i am sure it will be a smooth ride. Its better to invest myself in a place where i feel happy rather than pursue people who are dis-inteterested in me (as such wthout knowing the real intentions of me).

The on and off button...!

Some one once said to me....i turn my self on and off as and when the situation or the scene changes.....How much so ever i may be tired, i just turn that part of me off and then ADAPT accordingly to turn the switch ON in me to gel with the happy and joyous group/ situation. I feel its SO TRUE but equally so difficult to be able to do it with ease. i have been trying to do it, but unfortunately with little success. i try not put up a part of me in a situation which demands things out of my skin....but then, things dont come so easy in life, or do they...? we have to do things which wil make our life a little approachable to others...!!! since the last few days the dilemma of trying to put up that i am not has been devastating and it showed on my health...But its better to take a few blows than give up without trying...

I strongly believe that being able to adapt to a new situation does change yor frame of mind too... how much ever depressed we may be the change of scenario and thereby the change in vibes does tend to relax the mind...!!! so a conscious effort shud be given to change the situation as and when it arrives...not trying to run away from it but rather trying to divert for a little while..!

so the next time you are turned off by something.....try and turn on the happy switch on in you by simply changing the situation/place/activity or may be company of unwanted friends.....!!!