Controversies love me...!!!

Scenario 1: Im about to change my cell phone. I demand my then good friend to accompany me. She says yes. I also ask another friend of mine to accompany me. She said that she was busy. i said that it was fine if she could not make it. I go out with this friend of mine. I finish up my shopping. I return home to call her in the night. She does not pick my call. I keep trying. She does not budge. And then finally when she did, I asked her as to what was on her mind.
Misunderstanding:She tells me that she was pissed that I was ORDERING her to come along and that i was ASKING politely to the other one. She felt insulted.
My stand: When I am more free with a person I dont ASK I simply ORDER/DEMAND. I guess she was not able to understand that I was a better friend with her rather than the other one. Lesson learnt: Women get involved with petty details and miss the important point.

Scenario 2: I put up my pictures on ORKUT. Co-incidentally it has pictures of my group members. They do not want to be seen on the open/public forum. Agreed. What about the common pics then. Im left stranded. I still put up the pics. Bang come in the sharp worded replies.
Misunderstanding: I dont understand as to what needs to go online in an open website.
My Stand: Why should I feel confined because of others thoughts. I continued using the website with more zeal, crushing all the apprehensions i had about the pictures to be put up next.
Lesson Learnt: Put up your solo pics. Damn the world...!!!

Scenario 3: I am a talkative person. Expressive of my opinion. With utmost enthusiasm to face challenges.
Misunderstanding: I dont work at office. I'm too airy. Blabbers a lot with girls when instead I should be working.
My stand: Give me work and then observe my contribution. If I am kept out of work then how will you be able to gauge my performance without having seen my work?
Lesson Learnt: Simply go underground when you pick up that you are making rounds of the gossip mills at the work place. Out of sight means out of mind. It works the best.

Scenario 4: My online friend (not from hyderabad) receives a call for a new job in hyderabad. I haven't met her in my life. She asks for my opinion on the call for the job. She has been offered a 6 month project and with a pay of just 10K without the guarantee that she would be offered a job there after. she is unhappy and is confused as to what to do? I give in my opinion that she should take up the project. She refutes that why should she take it up if it will barely be able to keep her floating in a place so far away.
Misunderstanding: I want to meet her, hence the opinion.
My stand: The industry which we come from pays little to the freshers. And the project which she has been offered was good enough for a time span of 6 months. Post which she could get a handsome package near her home in one of the better companies.
Lesson Learnt: People like to hear what they feel is right, even if they are not.

Scenario 5: I like helping friends whenever possible and when the help would not trouble me much. I give in my 100% in a relation where i believe that it is worth it and then standby it even if the whole world says that the relation/person is wrong. I have faith in my friends.
Misunderstanding: I am overdoing things very much early in the relation.
My Stand: Life is short. Live it. Give in your energy, time and money in a relation which u feel is worth putting in asap.
Lesson Learnt: People will never understand my nature; that this is the way i am. And the help that i offer is just for MY happiness. Helping someone makes me happy. There is no need expaining why i offered the help.

Scenario 6: I HAD a best friend. She was my confession box. I used to treat her as my true compatriot in my life. I never had any physical inclination towards her.
Misunderstanding: I keep taking chances on her.
My Stand: When I am so clear that she is no more than a great friend, then the question of taking chances with her never rise.
Lesson Learnt: I have to let go of a friend whom i thought would be a great company and would support me till my death. There is no point holding on to a person who has suspicion running all the time on her mind for a person who never had any physical inclination towards her.

Scenario 7: I am the only child of my parents.
Misunderstanding: I must be a spoilt brat who has been raised with a silver spoon in my mouth.
My stand: I come from a middle class family. My mom and dad used to given in to my demands only if they felt that fullfilling the demand would work in my favor. I was kept out of things which would not help me even if i cried and yelled. I was never given things before the right time arrived.
Lesson Learnt: It helped me understand their importance in my life and made me use them rather than misuse them. Today I am happy and i treasure my upbringing and thank my parents for making me the person that i am and instilling in me such values.

These are just a few to name of the many that i face evryday. I dont bother about them any more, even if it is making me write this blog. The only thing that i want to say is that different people think differently. If we can strike a chord with someone then the relationship flourishes and if not then we know its fate. Expression is such a beautiful trait of humans. why dont we use it? Misunderstandings will all diminish if we speak our mind, but instead we EXPECT the other person to realise and understand things. It may so happen that people are not able to comprehend these SUBTLE signs. I am a dumb ass in things such as these. So if my friends know me then they know that its better to tell me straight. But there is always room to improve. I am learning to REALISE these subtle scenarios. Scenarios if not clarified may lead to a huge MISUNDERSTANDING in the future.