are u my friend...???

i thought that i had understood my friend and i thought thati had a person to talk to....a friend. this was on my last visit to mumbai.After a good ditch from a friend and after a few sleepless nights trying to understand as to what happened, i suddenly woke up to an enlightened person who now knew what exactly is friendship rather than a true/good friend.
A friend, is a person whom u think is equally poised in each nook and aspect of your life. At every point you see him as a person who thinks of you at equal terms of him. The minute you see him dominating you or he getting dominated (by you), in either case you will never be able to bridge that bond. That hitch will always reside in either of your minds. Thats why it is always said that a person who is well understood can only be taken as a great friend. Friendship is more pure than friends. A relation between such two individuals who respect each others lives mutually without any expectations or prejudices isgoing to prosper and flourish. Therefore this special bond needs to bemade with a person who respects you for who you are and not what youcan be in the future or for what u have not done in the past.Going back to my scenario, i waited for my friend to respond and meetup. In the beginning i thought that it was not deliberate and it was only on priority basis to finish other things first before meeting me,but the wait never ended. But rather what started was anguish and soul searching. Thinking what went wrong with me while trying to pursue myfriend. i realized that i was always afraid of losing this friend as i was so attached to the relationship that i was never ready to let go of all the investments of time and emotions involved in this relationship. But after the trip to mumbai i realized that its time to move on and not keep holding on to anything so strong. Its time to explore the untouched shores of so many seas. Its time to meet people who would never think that i or they are two individuals who have an edge over each other in some part of life, though i don't suggest that there should not be healthy competition, but overconfidence and "taken for granted" attitude should never be allowed. In any comparablevirtues of life, be it physical looks, or monetary status, or be itintellectual sharpness both the individuals need to leave allmaterialistic and non abstract things out of this pure relation. The point to be driven home is to respect each other in friendship andnever take the other person for granted no matter how old that friendis or how well u know the person. Respect each other's lives and liveon.